Bullying

Bullying

By Vee Montanez

 

WHAT IS BULLYING?

According to Webster’s bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.

I disagree with “aggressive behavior among school aged children”
Why? Because bullying can also happen in the work place among adults.

There are 3 main types of bullying:
1. Physical – involves hurting a person’s body or possessions.
2. Verbal – saying or writing mean things.
3. Emotional – distress resulting in someone developing low self-esteem, avoiding situations and becoming withdrawn.
Other forms of bullying include cyber, disability, gay, parental and sibling bullying.

I’ve found that cyber bullying is the most common in our day and time because of the popularity of social media. Kids are now doing something they call “blasting or outing” on Facebook. The person will share private/trusted information using pictures, online communication and/or screen shots. The person is considered blasted once the private information has been shared publicly. Most kids find this type of bullying amusing and soon after the post has been made the comments start pouring in. Some comments are positive but a majority of them are very negative and degrading. This type of bullying is there for the world to see and can sometimes lead to suicide because the embarrassment and humiliation is too much to handle for the individual being blasted. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a teenager today. Let me rephrase that, I would hate to be a teenager in 2014. Which is sad because I myself have a 16 year old.
There are also other types of cyber bullying which include cyber stalking, exclusion, flaming and masquerading.

What are the statistics?
There are two sources of federally collected data on youth bullying:
• The 2011 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) indicates that, nationwide, 20% of students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.
• The 2008–2009 School Crime Supplement (National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice Statistics) indicates that, nationwide, 28% of students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.

Although statistically the numbers did drop from 2008-2011 I feel the numbers should be zero percent. I know, that’s asking a lot especially in today’s society but wouldn’t it be amazing if we could live in a world with peace and harmony? Where we could all get along and not judge one another. Yes, I’m a dreamer! And I’ve seen this world change tremendously thru the years and unfortunately not for the better. I will continue to dream of a world where our youth can live in peace. A world where they don’t have to be scared, worried or live in fear. A world where they can be themselves! We must teach our youth to love, respect and help one another. We must teach them core values. Otherwise we’ve lost all sense of humanity and may God help us all including myself. This is my very first blog for the AAYC and I’ve taken weeks to even talk myself into writing it because I didn’t want to be judged. But last weekend I spent 12 hours at a lock in with our Youth Cabinet Leaders and they taught so many things. They helped me conquer my fear of standing up in front of a class to teach for the very first time. They also inspired me to write this blog without the fear of being judged. I thank you guys for becoming my family and inspiration in a matter of 12 hours. I hope this blog was helpful to at least one person. Please check out the information below including the videos. Thank you for taking the time to read this blog and if you have any topics you would like me to cover please email them to veepromotions@aol.com.

If you or someone you know is being bullied there is help. I’ve listed a few people you can reach out to that will be more than happy to listen. Our youth leaders are amazing individuals from different walks of life with different stories that you may be able to relate to.

Who can I talk to?
If you are being bullied you can talk to anyone at the AAYC (806) 373-2992 whether it be one of our Youth Leaders, or one of our adult mentors/advisors:  myself ( Vee Montanez ), Cody Perez, Christina Lee, Ryan O’Dell, Shelly Heugatter, Matt or LaRue Hite. You can also reach out to Tommy the Hacker of KISS FM by calling (806) 320-0969 or contacting him via Facebook.

VIDEOS:
Amanda Todd’s Story: Struggling, Bullying, Suicide, Self Harm
http://youtu.be/vOHXGNx-E7E
LIVE DIFFERENT – KINDNESS CHANGES EVERYTHING http://youtu.be/9gLuXt_GHUQ

RESOURCES:
STOP Cyber Bullying – www.stopcyberbullying.org

The Author of this blog is Vee Montanez

veepromotions@aol.com

Vee

Vee

 

A Resolution, really?

A RESOLUTION

By Matthew Walter Hite

Amarillo, Texas

 “You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do”      Henry Ford

First off I’d like to wish everyone a Happy New Year.  2014 is going to be a great year….. but wait…. don’t we all say that every year….  We all start the year with a huge purge; out with the old, in with the new.  A clean start, cleaning everything, getting in shape this year, saving money, better year “next” year….  We change lanes and speed up to make changes, But wait a minute WHY?

The New Year is a great time to stop and look back at your past year’s accomplishments, it’s a dot on ones timeline that everyone shares but WHY?  I ask again, why? Why is this dot on the timeline so different than any other?

A few questions I pose to each of you.  Please really think about this!  What did you accomplish this past year?  Where are you on your personal time line and how does it look? How can you start a positive change?  Currently are you the type person that you want your child, your neighbors and your love ones to know?  Do you want your child to know the life you have and know who you are?  I’ve always thought if you can’t look yourself in the mirror and said, I’m proud of that, then you didn’t do your best or maybe it’s time for change then.  Even more important, would you do something if your mother (or father) where standing beside you or your child was there.  Why or why not?  Do you honor them with your actions, words, and thoughts?

It’s hard to reflect on everything we do, we all have guilt, we all have issues and we all need to change.  Be that change in your life and those around you, everyday!  I encourage you, not today on New Years, but every day; make the changes in your like so that you can be proud of your actions and deeds and so that others will as well.  Only you can change your outcomes, only you but remember there are always people to help and support you, if you’ll let them in!

I hear people throughout the year saying, I’m gonna focus on that next year.  That’s gonna be one of my “New Year’s Resolutions” next year!  WHY?  When you see something you’d like to change about yourself why wait; make the change then and there or start working toward the change.  You have an opportunity to make change 365 days a year.  WHY create a huge list and hold onto it and then throw your entire life in a crazy stressful mess to make “this year” better?  I challenge you to set goals throughout the year, prep and struggle to make them happen, strive to be a better person, but WHY focus on it today, the first of the year.

Everything you did in 2013 and before is the foundation for 2014.  Your past cannot be purged on the first day of the year each year; simply put, it’s part of you!  You can however ask the Lord to forgive you of your misgivings and pray that he will help make you a better person, because through him all things are possible.

Let’s reflect on the past year today, think of where we are and where we have been and continue down the same old road, making course corrections as we go.   No matter what happens keep your head up and keep moving forward.  Our struggles and failures, as well as our successes create who we are.  Learn from your success and your failings; your strengths and your weaknesses.  Please don’t simply set resolutions today and say today is the beginning of a new me!  Change can’t happen over-night.  Let’s just make our journey on this Earth the best we can and please, let’s all help each other on the way!

Happy New Year everyone, lets give this day, and every day our best and only then will we have the BEST year ever!

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