Is extremely hard to imagine even for me. The other day I was trying to remember when I actually got my first cell phone. It took me a while to recall. But I did. My daughter was about eighteen months old (she will be 22 in august). The phone was the size of a man’s shoe. And out of all the mothers I knew, I was the only one who had such an item. The thing was so bulky I used to just leave it in the minivan. Back then they did not have car chargers for it. If the battery ran out you had to wait until you go home to juice it up.
The other mother’s used to look at me oddly when I did have it in my diaper bag. It could not fit into my purse!One time I had taken my daughter into the Boston aquarium. When we returned to my minivan, we discovered that the battery was dead. I had mistakenly left the lights on.There I was in the heavy drizzle of a June day, with a dead battery, an exhausted child and a cell phone that needed charging. Luckily there was a payphone nearby. You must be thinking “Good God lady this sounds like the dark ages”. I managed to call AAA and they came to charge my battery enough so I could get home.
During the time it took to make the phone call and wait for AAA to show up I remember my daughter and I sang the Barney song. Now for those of you who are unaware who Barney is I will give you a brief 411. Barney is or was a LARGE purple Dinasaur who had his own show on PBS at eight o’clock every morning. He would open and close the show with the “song”. I will spare you the lyrics! After we had exhausted that song, we moved on to a few other of our favorite tunes.
When the AAA truck showed up my daughter asked me what was going on. I explained to her that the man was going to try to start our battery. She was fascinated as the guy opened the hood of the minivan. in fact she made me get out of the van so we could watch this man do his work. She kept asking me every step of the way what was going on.The guy himself had a smile on his face from answering her questions.
By the time my daughter was eight it had become fashionable for people to have movies in their vehicles to entertain their kids. And most of the kids had those small flip phones that no one would be caught dead with now! I miss those days of having conversations with her. She has her cellphone in her right back pocket at all times. And help us all if she gets a text in the middle of a conversation.
That phone has become her master! She is powerless without it! A couple of years ago, I made a very unpopular rule in my house. There are absolutely no cell phones allowed at the dinner table. You would have thought I had said we were all moving to Albania. But I have stuck to my rule. We all have learned here that we can still have actual conversations outside of text messages. And I believe our relationships are more grounded as a result of that!
Technology is here to stay that is for sure. But we need to learn to make it work FOR us instead of WORKING us! While we have our heads stuck in the screen of a cell phone, the world is moving forward. There are people doing business, getting jobs and making a name for themselves while we are stuck in Candy Crush!!
Instead of worrying about getting to the next level of a game, why not try getting to the next level of YOUR life! It can and will happen once YOU decide to control the things that surround you!